Dating in 2017 is hard, and it can be dangerous. Many people are using online dating or dating APPs to find prospects, and that can make dating even more hazardous.
Have you seen the show Catfish on MTV? A person can really be anyone they want when they are online. They can choose to share their true identity, or they may be someone 100% different than what they portray online. It’s scary.
I had a pretty scary experience that has really made me think long and hard about dating safety. I matched with a guy on Tinder, and we had an hour plus phone call. He seemed reasonable and cool, so I decided to invite him to an event I had to attend for work. It was a dressy event, and he was down. We met before hand for a beer at a brewery that was two blocks from the venue for our meet and greets. Again, everything seemed cool. Things went down hill when we arrived at the event. They had this signature drink they passed out, and I left my drink on a high-top table to go speak to someone. By the time I was about halfway through the drink, I had started to feel really drunk and not right.
I went to the bathroom to gather myself and came out, but continued to feel more and more out of control. My legs were feeling numb, and I was so hammered from just two drinks. Something wasn’t right, and I went back to the bathroom. I remember calling a few friends and texting as well about how something wasn’t right, and I wasn’t feeling good. I ended up falling in the bathroom stall and hitting my head and knocking myself out. I came to and asked my friend to come get me. Thank God my friend came to rescue me. I don’t know what would have happened if I stayed or was left in the hands of my Tinder date.
My friend got me home, and I went into the bathroom and fell again. I was numb all over and having a hard time catching my breath, so he called 911. To make a long story short, I ended up in the ER with a concussion. They couldn’t confirm if I was drugged, but said it sounded that way. I am still being treated by the concussion specialist as I have terrible headaches, trouble concentrating, and insane light sensitivity and issues with my eyes. But again, it could be worse. I could have been date raped.
So from now on, I have some rules that I will always follow before meeting someone from online:
- Get some basic info about them like their full name, where they work, and a phone number.
- Share that info with a friend as well as the info on where I am meeting the guy for the date.
- Use the buddy system and double date.
- Have a phone conversation with the person before meeting.
- Never let them come to your house on a first date. Always meet them somewhere public.
- Never let them bring you a drink. Always keep your eyes on your drink and carry it with you when you go to the bathroom or anywhere else.
- If you can Google the person you are meeting to see if they have any police records etc.
Again, I am just happy it all ended the way it did. Not everyone is as lucky as I am when someone slips something into their drink.
What dating rules do you have to keep you safe?