I ended my last blog maybe it’s me and not them or something like that.
Could the real issue here be that I am way too picky? Or maybe not picky enough? As you can tell on this Saturday afternoon, I am feeling more conflicted than ever about this whole dating thing.
I took both of my profiles off of Plenty of Fish and OkCupid. I was just sick of seeing the same BS time and time again from guys just trying to get laid. It gets to a point where all the guys on the sites all start to seem like the same damn person. Sure, there are a few exceptions.
So over the last week, I have been out with three different guys. I know what you’re thinking, and I am acutely aware of the fact that I am a big fucking walking contradiction. Didn’t I say I didn’t want to date multiples or see a guy who’s dating a shit ton of women? Yet here I am.
Well from last week’s mix, we can 1000% eliminate the guy who was trying to make an InstaFamily. You can read about that uncomfortable date in the last blog. So we are left with two very different men. I won’t divulge their given nicknames or give them a number because I numbered guys in past blogs and don’t want to get anyone confused. So we will stick with generic Guy A and Guy B.
Guy A and I have been out a fair amount of times. He has a good job and is on a similar level to me financially. He’s college educated. He’s very much a gentleman and opens doors, pulls out chairs, and makes sure I walk on the side farthest from traffic. But on the other hand, he uses very vague terms to compliment me and definitely does not want a relationship or any sort of exclusive thing. His messages sometimes are very mixed and can be very confusing. Although we began texting and moved to phone/video chats, the communication is strictly back to all text. He likes to throw out things we can do together one day but typically doesn’t follow through with making said plans. He has never directly said he liked me. Instead, he says things like I like talking to you and I like spending time with you. He said earlier this week he wasn’t seeing or sleeping with anyone else, but a few days have passed by, and that may have changed. I am pretty sure he is still on both online dating sites.
Guy B and I have gone out a hand full of times. He’s more straightforward and thrifty. He has a son and has primary custody of him. The job he works isn’t the greatest as he admits, but allows him to be the father he wants to be and spend lots of time with his son. I think that’s admirable. But with said job, that means he and I are far off from one another financially. He does own his own home and has two paid off cars. He loves to compliment me and tell me how special I am and how beautiful I am. He also tells me he likes me! He wants to talk about and actually make plans for things in the future. He’s old school and wants to talk on the phone because he too feels it’s a better way to communicate. He’s not seeing anyone else and doesn’t want to see anyone else. Just like me, he’s taken down his online dating profiles.
So there you have it. It’s the fucking conundrum that is my life. They are two very different guys. Both have a lot of great qualities, but neither is perfect. Maybe I need to just forget both and find someone who combines the awesome aspects of each, Guy C?
I think the most important thing I need to realize is I cannot make someone be what I want them to be. Guy A is awesome, but I cannot make him want to be exclusive with me. And Guy B is awesome too, but I can’t click my heels together and magically make him make more money.