Usually I wouldn’t suggest watching a romantic-comedy movie to help you navigate the cluster fuck that is dating, but there are so many lessons to be learned in He’s Just Not That Into You.
I need my own Justin Long character to give it to me straight when it’s obvious to everyone but me that the guy just wants to bang or he’s not feeling it.
When it comes to dating and knowing if someone is into it, I tend to be fucking oblivious! Plus all the fucking bull shit games that guys play now, the dating scene only gets harder and harder to navigate with technology.
If you’ve never seen the movie, you MUST! I’d also suggest buying Greg Behrendt‘s book He’s Just Not That Into You because it goes even further than the movie.
So here are some basic lessons:
- If he’s not calling you, texting you back, or asking you out… well it’s because he’s not that into you.
- If he’s not sleeping with you… he’s sleeping with someone else.
- If he’s married, in another relationship, says that he’s not ready for a relationship… again, he’s just not that into you!
I think you see where I am going with this whole diatribe. A guy who really wants you or likes you will make his intentions clear. He’s be consistent and concise. If he’s doing the opposite, stop wasting your time.
Oh, and there’s one more book that’s like the follow up to the Greg Behrendt book by Dr. Ian Kerner. He’s made many appearances within the pages on Cosmo Magazine. His book, Be Honest–You’re Not That Into Him Either, is also eye opening.